Dog Separation Anxiety

Grumpy Max growls: “We just love you too much. It's annoying, we know.”

Understanding Dog Separation Anxiety

Does your dog turn into a barking, howling, cushion-destroying tornado the moment you walk out the door?

You're not alone — and neither is your dog (in spirit, at least).

This common canine condition is known as separation anxiety, and it's one of the most misunderstood challenges dog owners face.

Dogs are highly social animals. For thousands of years, they've been bred to work, hunt, and live closely with humans. So, it’s no surprise that many dogs struggle when their favourite human disappears, even for a short while.

Some dogs handle it just fine. Others, not so much. You might come home to chewed furniture, scratched doors, soiled carpets, or a dog who’s been whining nonstop.

It’s not mischief — it’s panic. And your dog is trying to cope the only way they know how.

Why Dogs Develop Separation Anxiety

Separation anxiety is often triggered by a sudden change in a dog’s routine or environment.

Common causes include:

• A recent adoption or rehoming
• A move to a new house
• A change in the family dynamic (like a baby, divorce, or loss of a family member)
• Shifts in routine, such as returning to work after months at home

Dogs thrive on consistency and human companionship. If either is disrupted, some dogs become overwhelmed by stress.

What It Looks Like: Signs of Separation Anxiety

Not sure if your dog’s behaviour is separation anxiety or just a bit of boredom? Here are some telltale signs:

• Destructive behaviour (chewing furniture, shredding pillows, digging)
• Excessive vocalisation (barking, whining, howling when left alone)
• Pacing or restlessness
• Attempts to escape (scratching doors, damaging crates)
• Toileting indoors, even if the dog is otherwise house-trained
• Salivation, drooling or panting more than usual
• Clinginess when you're home — they follow you everywhere

These behaviours typically begin within minutes of your departure and may escalate over time.

Tips & Solutions: Helping Your Dog Cope

Luckily, there are many ways to help your dog feel more secure and confident when left alone. Here are the top strategies to try:

1. Gradual Desensitisation

Don’t just walk out the door for three hours and hope for the best. Instead, build up your dog’s tolerance slowly:

• Start with short absences (a few seconds to a few minutes)
• Gradually increase the time you're gone
• Always return calmly and quietly

This teaches your dog that leaving doesn't mean you're gone forever—and that nothing bad happens while you're away.

2. Use Enrichment Toys

Keep your dog’s brain busy with interactive puzzle feeders, stuffed Kongs, snuffle mats, or treat-dispensing toys. These not only distract them but also create positive associations with your absence.

Grumpy Max tip: “If I’ve got a peanut butter-stuffed Kong, I don’t even notice you’re gone… for a while.”

3. Keep Exits and Returns Low-Key

Dogs pick up on emotional cues. If you make a big fuss when leaving or coming home, your dog will too.

• Ignore your dog for the first few minutes when you return
• Stay calm and matter-of-fact during departures

This helps prevent an emotional rollercoaster every time you leave or arrive.

4. Create a “Safe Zone”

Designate a comfy space for your dog to stay while you’re out. This could be:

• A crate (if properly crate-trained)
• A quiet room with their bed, toys, and water
• An area with calming scents like lavender or pheromone diffusers

Consistency is key — the safe zone should be associated with calm, positive experiences.

5. Try Calming Products

There are several over-the-counter options that may help reduce anxiety:

• Anxiety wraps or Thundershirts
• Calming music or white noise
• Pheromone sprays (like Adaptil)
• Natural supplements (ask your vet first)

Some dogs respond well to these; others may need additional support.

When to Seek Help

If your dog’s separation anxiety is severe — think constant barking, destructive behaviour, or injuring themselves trying to escape — it’s time to get professional help.

A certified dog behaviourist or trainer can work with you to create a personalised desensitisation program. In some cases, a veterinarian may recommend anti-anxiety medication to help your dog cope while undergoing training.

Remember: your dog isn’t being naughty. They’re struggling. And with the right support, they can improve.

Related Questions

How Long is It OK to Leave My Dog Alone?

Most adult dogs can tolerate being left alone for 4–6 hours. Puppies and dogs with anxiety may need shorter intervals. If you're away for longer, consider:

• A dog walker
• Doggy daycare
• Coming home at lunch
• Hiring a pet sitter

Can Dogs Grow Out of Separation Anxiety?

Some dogs do improve over time — especially if the anxiety is mild. But most dogs with true separation anxiety need intentional training and support. It rarely disappears on its own.

Related Blog Posts

• Coping With a Clingy Canine
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• Crate Training & Comfort: A Safe Haven for Your Dog
  Crates aren’t cages — when introduced properly, they’re cozy retreats that help anxious dogs feel secure.

Final Thoughts From Grumpy Old Max

“We’re not being dramatic.

Well, maybe a little.

But when you leave, it’s like the world ends. Every. Single. Time. Help us out here, will ya?”

Separation anxiety can feel overwhelming — for you and your dog. But with patience, consistency, and the right tools, your furry friend can learn to feel safe and secure, even when you’re not around.

And when you do come home? The tail wags, the happy dances, the joy — now that’s love worth coming back for.